Monthly Archives: February 2011

Truths

My brother-in-law’s brother (that’s a mouth full) Brad posted this on Twitter today, and I got such a kick out of how true it is that I just had to share with the blogosphere.

A lot of talk

When I was a sophomore in college a friend approached me about joining the crew team to become a coxswain.  As I sat discussing my future as a coxswain, my best friend laughed and said, “We’ll see how long this last.  You never finish anything.”   That comment hit me like a ton of bricks, but he was right.  I am not only the world’s biggest procrastinator but I also start things and get really hyped about them and then abandon them like a sinking ship.   Needless to say that the next day I went to my first practice with the Virginia Tech Men’s crew team and stuck it out through the entire semester!  I will admit that I fell in love with Crew, but I also had to prove to my friend that I wasn’t a quitter.  I stuck with Crew for the next 3 years…on and off.  I’d like to be able to say I didn’t quit, but after one semester I was so burnt out and on the verge of failing classes that I had to take a semester off.  Junior year I stuck with the team for the entire year, but fall of senior year I quit again.  Why can’t I ever finish things I set out to do?

Since that fateful day in fall 2002 when a close friend slapped me in the face with the reality that I was all talk and not much doing, I can’t think of anything big that I’ve said I was going to do that I actually did.  The only exception to that is moving to Seattle, however it took me 1 year from the time I said I was going to move here to actually packing up and doing it.  Before that I must had mentioned at least 12 times about some big city I was going to move, I’d search for jobs, I’d look for apartments on Craigslist but at the end of the day I’d just go back to my quaint Alexandria apartment and go on with my boring Northern Virginia life.

Is it genetic that I never finish anything?  I wonder how many of my aunts, uncles, cousins find them selves being huge procrastinators and never finishing things.   I’d like to chalk it up to the fact that I’m 99% sure I have some sort of adult ADD, but who knows.  I know I can’t even unload the dishwasher, or switch a load of laundry without getting distracted and doing something else for 30 mins before I remember “Oh yeah! I need to finish putting those clothes in the dryer”.  Even while writing this blog post I’ve put my laptop down twice to get up and do something else, just because it happened to pop in my head.

I really want to change this habit.  I want to plan something and get it done start to finish, whether it be just cleaning the house, writing a blog post, or making a big life change.  I’ve been thinking for a year or so that I wanted to write a book.  Not because I think people will even want to read it, or because I think it’ll become a best seller, but I just think that I have a lot of stories to tell (most that I’ve never told anyone) and I think they would be interesting to write down.  I have horrible grammar, and I’m not a very concise writer, but what the heck.  It would just be for me.   Is this something I will actually do and finish??   Now I feel the need to go sit in a cliche Seattle coffee shop and type away like I’m working on something really important.  Of course, I say that now, but in 3 hours when I’m still running around my apartment; starting and not finishing 500 mundane tasks; we’ll see what happens.   At least I managed to finish this blog post…that’s something!

…but it tastes so good

Over the past couple weeks Chick-Fil-A has been under huge fire for their religious beliefs and how it dictates their business operations.   I think there has always been a silent world of people who consciously don’t eat the fried chicken goodness solely because of the beliefs of the company owners, but the protest became less silent when it was publicized that a Chick-Fil-A franchise was donating food for an event held by an Anti-Gay Marriage organization.   It even triggered Dan Cathy (the founder’s son, and now CEO) to post this video on Facebook.

<p><a href=”http://vimeo.com/18680127″>Dan Cathy Statement</a> from <a href=”http://vimeo.com/chickfila”>Chick-fil-A</a&gt; on <a href=”http://vimeo.com”>Vimeo</a&gt;.</p>

Although I read the original news article and saw the video above I had kind of put it out of my mind; that is until I was in VA today and mentioned to a few people that I would be eating Chick-Fil-A.  I think my exact words were “I’m gonna go gorge myself on Chick-Fil-A now”, to a friend on gchat who’s response was something along the lines of “I am currently not so amused by Chick-Fil-A”.

Later the same afternoon I posted this on twitter and immediately got this response from a friend “mm, chik-fi-la. It’s good stuff. I quit eating it though because of their prejudice against homosexuals.#keepyourhatechicken :D”.

Who knew just running through a drive thru to enjoy some delicious waffle fries and savory chicken nuggets with a big ol’ Dr. Pepper would cause so much controversy…not in the world, but in my head.   Now I’m torn.  On one hand, I do NOT agree with the Christian ideal that marriage is only between a man & woman, I am whole-heartedly a supporter of gay marriage.  On the other hand, is it really worth it to ban eating such fabulous food (which I only get on my trips back East) because of the beliefs of the company owners?   Is it really worth it?

It reminds me of the time when the Southern Baptists wanted to boycott Disney because they were having a “Gay Day” at Walt Disney World.   Do Baptists, or any Christians for that matter really boycott Disney anymore?  There are always extremist, but I’m talking about the normal society, go to church on Sundays and Wednesdays Christians, not the crazy people who live in communes.

Do you know the religious beliefs of every company you do business with?  Sure, Chick-Fil-A is vocal about their beliefs, but what if every business owner was.  If you are a hard core democrat would you stop frequenting your favorite store if you knew the owner was republican, decorated his store with red elephants, and posted political signs during election time?   Is that any different?  Ladies, what if you found out your hair dresser was into witchcraft, but he/she was the only one who cut your hair so fabulously?

And do we apply this to businesses alone?  I have a lot of friends who have opposing views from me.  Heck, if I’m willing to not eat a delicious chicken sandwich because the CEO of the company who makes it doesn’t believe in gay marriage then do I have to stop associating with anyone who has those same beliefs to not be a hypocrite?   If that’s the case I’d have to disown my entire family!

I get why people aren’t eating Chick-Fil-A.  I get why some people don’t eat meat for “ethical” reasons.  I get why some people change the channel when Modern Family comes on.  I get it.  We all have beliefs, and we’re all entitled to them.

Where do we draw the line on boycotts and disassociations for personal beliefs?  Do I need to start filtering my facebook friends?  Do I have friends fill out a questionnaire before I’ll meet them at the bar for a drink?  Do I not eat the chicken?

Television Reality?

I’m sitting on the couch tonight watching Grey’s Anatomy, which marks the start of McDreamy’s Alzheimer’s study.  As the show opened with him inserting a “placebo” drug into a test patient, I couldn’t help but get hopeful to the study that was going on and results that could come.  Then the first commercial break broke into my dreams and I crashed back down to earth realizing that unfortunately this is NOT reality television.   It makes you wonder though, if they can create a study on a well-known television drama, what kinds of studies are they doing in the real world.   Is there a real life McDreamy, or even McUgly?  I don’t care what he/she looks like as long as they are a world class neuro-surgeon who is working tirelessly to find a cure for Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s is a subject close to my heart, as my beloved grandmother, whom we all lovingly call “Baba” was diagnosed what seems like a lifetime ago.  As the years passed and her normal bubbly character turned to a person I recognize but barely know, it became hauntingly real to see how the disease truly effects people.   I know that my family is prone to the disease, and as I watch my Grandfather, Bobo, struggle with loving his wife of 55 years who’s already gone it breaks my heart, and I can’t help but fear that someday someone else in our giant family of 33 will become another victim of this horrible disease.

For Christmas this past year, instead of exchanging gifts the cousins put together a tribute book for our grandparents and made this amazing tribute page on alz.org where we all donated money to the fight to find a cure.   Oh McDreamy…I hope you’re study finds a cure.  It may be fictional TV, but it gives me hope that in real life one day a cure will be found.